Book review II
Ok..So I managed to finish 3 chapters of the book when I was babysitting..
Oh yeah..Speaking of babysitting,I'm no longer an unemployed bum anymore.
Well,long story cut short:-
Beginning of this previous semester (because I finished my exams liao~Remember?),I went in for an interview for a casual support worker with Activ.At that time,they couldn't employ me because I didn't have enough experience with people with disabilities.So,instead of being a paid worker,they suggest I do some volunteering work first before re-applying for the job again.I was upset,bla bla bla and all the shit that you're suppose to go through when you got turn down.I did,of course,went with the suggestion and started doing some volunteering.Went for the disco sundowners that're held for those who're mentally disabled,in fact,I've been there 3 times,4 hours per session.And then,last week I started with my first sit for kids with mental disabilities.With the help I received from my supervisor,I was offered the position of a paid casual support worker.But,I'm still in the middle of filling in all the paper works and stuff,so not officially their employees yet.
So that basically sums up what happened there.
Oh!And plus,I don't think I'll be able to share much of my working experience since there's this confidential policy that I have to follow.I can get fired and ruin my reputation if I expose too many details,especially via blog,even though it's not like my blog is public or super popular or anything.Anyways,we'll see how it goes because I can sense that sooner or later,I'll want to share some thoughts on here.
Ok~Back to the book.
Chapter 2:He's just not that into you if he's not calling you
Ok..So this very first statement made in this chapter made me laughed:"Men know how to use the phone".
What the authors were trying to bring out is that,if a man is interested in you,they'll find a way to make connection with you,no matter what.
We live in an era bombarded with all kinds of technology,especially those used for communicating.
If you don't own a mobile phone,there's the house phone.
If you don't own a house phone,there's the public phone.
If you don't live anywhere a public phone,there's always your friend's cellphone. (haha!)
If you don't dare to talk or listen to the other's voice,there's always text messaging and emailing!
And etc etc etc...I'm pretty sure you know what I'm trying to get at this point.
I strongly agree that,if guys are interested in you,they're bound to find ways to stay in touch with you.
All my previous relationships started off with the means of communication.
First,there was the house calling period,because I didn't have a mobile phone back then.
And then,the text messaging period.
Eventually followed by the online chatting period.
Which of course,as the trend changes,it shifted to Facebook messaging/wall-writing.
All in all,for me,chapter 2 has a lot of credit given because most that was said was is was is (?) legitimate.
Taking 'busy' as an excuse for not staying connected is total BS I reckon'.
And sadly to say,I'm guilty of both coming up and accepting 'being busy' as an excuse for not calling.
It says here in this chapter,if a guy forgets to call,it means that he's just not that interested in you.
It's not true right?
But sometimes,even the most important thing can slip out of your mind,right?It doesn't necessarily means that it's not important at all,right?
Please tell me it's not just my naivity and you agree with me,too... >.< Please please please *begging hard*
I forget bout things at times as well,but it doesn't mean that that thing doesn't matter to me.It's just that,I'm no Einstein nor Thomas Edison so my brain capacity is very very limited..Heeeeeeeeee *grin*
Chapter 3:He's just not that into you if he's not dating you
This chapter is the reason why I don't friggin' agree with the whole 'only hanging out but not dating' or 'seeing someone is different from dating' thing.
To me,it's either you're in a relationship or you're nothing but just friends.
Don't freaking make any move before you are sure with what you want!
Don't freaking give me bloody misleading hints and then end up telling me that you're not ready for a relationship.
Bullshit!
If you know you're not,why would you wanna hang out with me and lead me on in the first place?
The gray area between friendship and relationship,that's always the thing that drives people nuts when it comes to dating.
Hhmmm...The way the authors put it,"It's not that they're not ready to be in a relationship,they're just not ready to be in a relationship with you."
Harsh and sad,but true.
Not much review on this chapter..Been too busy trying to express my thoughts bout the whole 'dating/seeing someone' thing~
Hhmmm...
But I guess it would be fun to be able to 'hang out' with multiple people at once.
Commitments and hassle free.Haha!!
It's call attention-seeking,not love-finding.
Chapter 4:He's just not that into you if he's not having sex with you
Boy oh boy~If you really want to take this seriously,that means there's a big portion of unmarried couples that I know of who are in a relationship that neither one is interested in the other.
I,for one,am not the kind of person who is against pre-marital sex.
As long as you feel that the chemistry is right and that you love the person at that moment,then I don't think anyone else should make a judgement about that.
But may I just remind you once again,this is a book written by two AMERICANs,a culture that is different from ours (well..mine at least~ XD haha!).
Even though,people are more open-minded nowadays,but that doesn't mean every culture has to be the same.
Some couples do not have sex and will not force their partners into it.But that doesn't mean that they don't love them or aren't interested in them,it's just that,they respect their partners' decision in not having pre-marital sex.
It's because they are so into them,they respect their partners' decision because they don't want to push them over the edge and end up losing them.
Face it,boys think with their penis,that's the universal idea that were being taught.
That is an innate-thing and there's nothing you can do about it.
BUT!I'm not saying that all boys act upon their penis.
Thinking and acting is different.
Boys aren't the only one with sexual drive,I believe you all know that all normal human beings do.
We live to reproduce and that's already been pre-programmed onto our genes.
It's normal for boys to want to have sex with someone they are attracted to,so no judgement should be made on that and no boys should be called a pervert just because they are being themselves.
So,I think that the more appropriate title for this chapter should be "He's just not that into you if he doesn't want to have sex with you".
We all know,secretly,deep down inside of our hearts,that one would want to have sex with people they are attracted to,let it be if it's said out loud or not.But to whether or not prosecute the action and prolong that thought,it's the whole id vs superego vs ego battle.
Oooo~I don't know..I just hope that I'm making sense.
Please tell me if I'm not...
Then....I might consider getting brain surgery so I can start making sense when I talk or express myself..haha!
Man~!
I suddenly have an urge to say this,"Having that special someone to watch tv with is awesome!"
No reason..Just because I was watching "National Treasure" at work all by myself just now and thought it was boring! (not the movie..)
