Book Review III
I'm right,right?This IS the 3rd book review,right?
Anyways,haven't done much of the readings recently,until this evening.Only read one chapter though,but thought that the review for this chapter should stand alone because this chapter is so good.
Chapter 5:He's just not that into you if he's having sex with someone else
Can you see why I think this chapter is good yet?
No?
Ok..Maybe this subtitle can give you more of an idea.
"There's never going to be a good excuse for cheating"
AMEN!!
I totally agree with the authors when they said there's NO such thing as an 'accident' when it comes to cheating.
There'll always be a certain amount of planning when people cheat on their significant others.
First story shared:"He's got no excuse and he knows it"
A guy slept with this same chick behind his girlfriend's back,twice.He didn't get caught,but the chick sold him out by telling his girlfriend bout it.The girlfriend confronted him,and he confessed.He said he knew it was wrong but didn't know why he did that.He begged for her to come back.
The authors' thought?
Dump his sorry ass!
My thought bout the guy?
Dump-able.
Remember Rihanna's "Take a bow"?
"Boy,you're only sorry you got caught."
Right on the point.
Second story:"But I've gotten fat"
The reason that this boyfriend gave to his girlfriend for cheating is because he wasn't sexually attracted to her anymore because she gained significant amount of weight.
The authors' thought?
They think she should lose that extra 175 pounds---in that case,they meant her boyfriend. (I laughed at this one.)
My thought?
Dump-able and kill-able.
That guy is a total loser and that was the lamest and most hurtful possible excuse a guy can think of.
Putting the blame on the girl?!What an asshole!!
Third story:"He has stronger sex drive than I"
This guy said he cheated because the girlfriend couldn't satisfy his sexual needs.And she admitted that there were times when she refused to have sex because she was too tired or something.
The author's thought?
"Don't let any man blame you for their infidelity.Ever."
My thoughts?
Dump-able.
Face it,boys in general do have stronger sex drives than girls.But that doesn't mean they can only make a relationship work by staying in bed 24/7,until they are all dried up of sperms!
Girls are more emotional than boys in general,so does that mean we can bitch and whine and be emotionally unstable as we like?Hell no!Don't try to put blames on the biological factors.
Fourth story:"At least he knew her"
He slept with his ex-wife.Told the girlfriend that he had no control when the old feelings came back.Told her to forgive him because it wasn't like someone who is new.
The authors' thought?
It's ok for people to have feelings,but "that doesn't mean you have to have sex".
My thoughts?
Dump-able.
That's just lame.Using that excuse as a "get out of jail" card.If you give a guy that card,you'd find that he'd be sleeping with all the girls that aren't 'new' in no time.
In conclusion,
A guy who doesn't have excuses when he cheats,is a jerk.
A guy who comes up with excuses when he cheats,is a jerk.
A guy who uses you as an excuse when he cheats,is a jerk.
A guy who doesn't tell you bout it when he cheats,is a jerk.
A guy who tells you bout it when he cheats,is a jerk.
Basically,a guy who cheats is a big fat J-E-R-K.
There shouldn't be any excuse when it comes to cheating.If you're so not into your significant others,why not just break it to her/him and end everything,instead of trying to pursue further without making a stop to the relationship?
Cheat on me once,shame on you.
Because you broke my trust and just proved to me that you're completely not worth my time.And it'd be your lost for cheating on me.
Cheat on me twice,shame on me.
Because if I take you back and let you cheat on me the second time,I'm the dumbest person in this world.I shall be crowned the 'most brainless girl in this world'.And I don't mind someone slapping the sense out of me.
Sure,people can come up with the,'I know he/she is cheating on me,but I love him/her so much that I just couldn't let go!" excuse.
Think bout it,if he/she is cheating on you,it means that they're not into you anymore,and all you have left is what is physical.Do you want to be in a relationship where there's no emotional connection at all?
I do have to admit that giving up a person you love is freaking difficult,it's like cutting off a drug addiction without any professional help.
It's so easy to fall into relapse and be stuck in that vicious cycle again and again.When you try to cut off an addiction without any formal guidance,it's going to be torturous.You'd feel like dying and would even consider getting back on that drug because you just couldn't bear the pain.You only want the satisfaction for the short time being,but you know deep down in your heart,that in the long run,that drug is going to kill you when you least expected.
But if you succeed in cutting off that addiction,you'd feel more refreshed and better in general.
A guy who cheats will earn my despice.He shall become the ugliest dead or living THING I know of and I'd want him to suffer the emotional pain some times later,not physical pain.Trust me,physical pain is nothing compared to emotional pain.That emotional pain will eat you up alive and make you suffer the most.Time can heal,but before that happens,I hope that jerk will have 'fun' feeding the emotional pain.
So,friends,don't be a cheater please.
If you know things aren't going well,either talk it through or end it.Don't drag the relationship any further.
