Realisation

When it comes to other people’s relationship, we always tend to have a lot of things to say.

But when it comes to our relationship, we’d always hope others would talk less bout it, especially if it’s something that’s not so good to the ears.

Why is that we always have so many things to say when it comes to other people’s business?

Sure, for some people, it’s call ‘looking out for one another’, or maybe ‘caring for their future’, and for some, they just like to think of themselves as more superior than others.

I heard this quote from America Next Top Model cycle 10’s finalist, Anya. She said, “Why do we have to put others down just to make ourselves feel better?”

It’s true in some context.

Some people do try to make others look stupid just so they can look smarter, or at least, make themselves feel better.

They bitch bout other people’s lifestyle, clothings and choices in life, which wouldn’t necessary be true because they are doing that just to please themselves. Well, I couldn’t really say it’s bitching, because some really do give good advice and are really trying to help others to be a better person.

For example, my sisters like to criticise about what I wear, at times, rather harshly. If you ask them to point out someone they know as a tasteless person, I’m pretty sure that I’d be on the top list. Sometimes, I do get offended by what they say because they can be bitchy and tough when they need to, but sometimes, I’m glad that they’re the one giving me the critics so I won’t be walking out looking like a total idiot. And I do feel that, they truly wanted me to look good.

But relationships aren’t just as simple as trying to figure out what to wear. It is far more complicated and there’s no way anyone can foresee if two people are compatible or not in the long run.

Sometimes, we have to judge base on what we already know, which can be very limited at times. When we do this, it also means that other people are doing it as well.

But when family members judge about each other’s relationship, I do believe it’s coming from a good intention. Afterall, if your family loves you, they want the best for you, no? So it is normal that they have extra things to say about your relationship. Though, sometimes it really is a pain in the arse trying to make them see what you see in your partner because, the sparks between two people can’t be easily be put into words. No other third person will ever know how the two people connect and how the chemistry works between the two, other than themselves. Sometimes, even the two involved people don’t really have a full idea of it.

It is amazing to see how what other people say can really affect two people’s relationship. The pressure the two received, it is often the murderer of a relationship. So, one advise on that one, we should really keep our heads out of other people’s business as much as possible and stop criticising and start appreciating that this world is made up of billions and billions of DIFFERENT people with DIFFERENT pattern in choices of life.

Another thing is that, I’ve been so immersed in trying to let the whole world realise how my decision could be a right one that I’ve been making troubles for myself. I’m starting to see that, I shouldn’t really take into account too much of what people think bout my life, because it is MY life. I know what I’m doing, and I know that my decision will not be a bad one.

Like I said earlier, there are some people that exist in this world just to say bad things about other people’s life. They say it not because other people really suck at their life, they say it just to make themselves feel better about their own selves. I call it, the lazy and selfish way to building self-esteem. For those people, I feel sorry for them because they really are incapable of making their own life a better one. So instead of trying to work on their own life, they despise others, a quicker way to make themselves feel like they are on top of the pyramid, which in fact, they really aren’t.

I’m also starting to see that, I shouldn’t be just hiding in one corner trying to figure out what people I care about will think of my decision, when I should just confront with them  and actually recognise what they think about rather than just doing all the guessing. Maybe, they aren’t as close minded as I think they are.

Turning 20 is an alarm that is going off constantly, trying to tell me that I’m no more a teenager and whether I like it or not, I am stepping into adulthood right now.

One final note:

For those of you who is abusing and slaughtering animals, including those near extinction such as the seals, dugongs, bla bla bla… You can go FUCK yourself and each other with your weapons!!!  And then burn in hell with the Satan!!!