When it comes to other people’s relationship, we always tend to have a lot of things to say.
But when it comes to our relationship, we’d always hope others would talk less bout it, especially if it’s something that’s not so good to the ears.
Why is that we always have so many things to say when it comes to other people’s business?
Sure, for some people, it’s call ‘looking out for one another’, or maybe ‘caring for their future’, and for some, they just like to think of themselves as more superior than others.
I heard this quote from America Next Top Model cycle 10’s finalist, Anya. She said, “Why do we have to put others down just to make ourselves feel better?”
It’s true in some context.
Some people do try to make others look stupid just so they can look smarter, or at least, make themselves feel better.
They bitch bout other people’s lifestyle, clothings and choices in life, which wouldn’t necessary be true because they are doing that just to please themselves. Well, I couldn’t really say it’s bitching, because some really do give good advice and are really trying to help others to be a better person.
For example, my sisters like to criticise about what I wear, at times, rather harshly. If you ask them to point out someone they know as a tasteless person, I’m pretty sure that I’d be on the top list. Sometimes, I do get offended by what they say because they can be bitchy and tough when they need to, but sometimes, I’m glad that they’re the one giving me the critics so I won’t be walking out looking like a total idiot. And I do feel that, they truly wanted me to look good.
But relationships aren’t just as simple as trying to figure out what to wear. It is far more complicated and there’s no way anyone can foresee if two people are compatible or not in the long run.
Sometimes, we have to judge base on what we already know, which can be very limited at times. When we do this, it also means that other people are doing it as well.
But when family members judge about each other’s relationship, I do believe it’s coming from a good intention. Afterall, if your family loves you, they want the best for you, no? So it is normal that they have extra things to say about your relationship. Though, sometimes it really is a pain in the arse trying to make them see what you see in your partner because, the sparks between two people can’t be easily be put into words. No other third person will ever know how the two people connect and how the chemistry works between the two, other than themselves. Sometimes, even the two involved people don’t really have a full idea of it.
It is amazing to see how what other people say can really affect two people’s relationship. The pressure the two received, it is often the murderer of a relationship. So, one advise on that one, we should really keep our heads out of other people’s business as much as possible and stop criticising and start appreciating that this world is made up of billions and billions of DIFFERENT people with DIFFERENT pattern in choices of life.
Another thing is that, I’ve been so immersed in trying to let the whole world realise how my decision could be a right one that I’ve been making troubles for myself. I’m starting to see that, I shouldn’t really take into account too much of what people think bout my life, because it is MY life. I know what I’m doing, and I know that my decision will not be a bad one.
Like I said earlier, there are some people that exist in this world just to say bad things about other people’s life. They say it not because other people really suck at their life, they say it just to make themselves feel better about their own selves. I call it, the lazy and selfish way to building self-esteem. For those people, I feel sorry for them because they really are incapable of making their own life a better one. So instead of trying to work on their own life, they despise others, a quicker way to make themselves feel like they are on top of the pyramid, which in fact, they really aren’t.
I’m also starting to see that, I shouldn’t be just hiding in one corner trying to figure out what people I care about will think of my decision, when I should just confront with them and actually recognise what they think about rather than just doing all the guessing. Maybe, they aren’t as close minded as I think they are.
Turning 20 is an alarm that is going off constantly, trying to tell me that I’m no more a teenager and whether I like it or not, I am stepping into adulthood right now.
One final note:
For those of you who is abusing and slaughtering animals, including those near extinction such as the seals, dugongs, bla bla bla… You can go FUCK yourself and each other with your weapons!!! And then burn in hell with the Satan!!!
嗯…要考试咯~~
最最最重要的消息要跟各位讲!!
对不起~原本是应该要在上个礼拜六就post的了~呵呵呵~
豆豆回家咯!!
好样的他~出去玩了一整个礼拜才回来，还是托不知道是谁送回来的。
哈哈！贱狗！
让我们又爱又恨的王八蛋！！！
不过，没关系啦！
最重要的就是豆豆平平安安的回来啦！
要乖乖咯~不要再乱跑了噢！
爱啦比优~!!!
开心开心!
整个人是开心到~~~~~~
哈哈哈哈!!!!!
嗯…忽然之间有一股想要写部落格的冲动。
可是，该写些什么东西呢？却是一点头绪也没有。
想写一些关于‘爱情’这门学问，却又不知道要从哪里开始。
自己不是专家，华文造诣又没有很高…还真有点难搞啊～
可是，话又说回来，对于‘爱情’这一类的学问，有可能会有真正的专家咩？
是有很多所谓的爱情小说家啦，可是，那应该也只限於‘纸上谈兵’的专家吧？
我这样说，并不是想要得罪那些小说家，而是想说，成功的恋情，除了要达到‘人和’，‘天时地利’更是重点吧？
说真的，想要遇到人好的异性，有多难呢？请你马上数一数，你身边已经有多少个可以称得上是‘好人’的异性朋友呢？
那，为甚么却又不会和这些人发展任何更深一层的关系呢？
或许是因为，之间存在的化学反应不同，喜欢的层面不一样。
当你遇到和你有对的火花的那个人的时候，却又可能因为地点得
废话太多，相信各位其实都可以大约猜到我想表达的意思。
总的来说，爱情这个东西，没能像普通的科学那样，单靠几个基本原理，就能无误。
不一样的人类组合，就会产生不一样的火花。
说到尾，我还是相信缘分多一点。
对的缘分，也就包含了‘天时、地利、人和’这几样东东…
从这篇post当中，我深深体会到这样的一个领悟…
没有灵感，写出来的东西就会很废，很多fish了…
啊！！！！！！！！！！！！！！！
要考试了！！！！！！
显叻！！！！！
都不知道要怎么办才好！
下一个semester要拿5科kok！想到都没力去…
真的是显到………
不过，生活忙一点也好。
起码，日子可以过得快一点。
不知不觉就念完Year 2了，莫明其妙就要念Year 3了，然后，也会很不自觉的要上Year 4了…
最后呢，就会不小心接到同学的喜帖，然后，回去和喜酒，然后呢，就飞往自己的梦想去！o野！！！
说好，我会很ngiao ji的，红包不会包太大，可能会在红包里再包一个红包，那个红包里再包多一个红包，那个红包里又再包多一个红包…bla bla bla的…
喂！可别小看那个心思咧！送你开不完的红包袋，代表送你无限的祝福和运气咧！
哈哈哈！Sot 啊！神经病～无聊！
我要变聪明一点！！！！！！！！
P.S. 我最近帮我们大家最爱的朝君取了一个新名字: Ngiao Ji-est Porn Star
欲知详情，请联络佘少扬先生。
君:Paiseh！既然拿你来冲我部落格的收视率！哈哈！=Þ
另外，豆豆还是处於 M.I.A (Missing In Action) 的状态…
大家，帮帮忙吧！他不见快要一个礼拜了！ TT.TT
今天, 自己一个人跑到Mill Point 那里跑步。
不懂有没有比平常跑得多，可是那感觉爽快多了。
跑完步，就到公园里荡秋千。
荡呀荡…
似乎，把连日来的烦恼和不开心暂时的把它们给荡飞了~
高高的悬挂在空中、风，迎面吹来的那个感觉，是很不错一下。
这几天, 相信大家都可以猜到为何我的心情欠佳吧？
嘛不是因为那个王八旦臭豆豆咯…
离家出走这么多天了，还是不舍得回来…让我们全家都在为它担心…
都这么多天了，都不知道他有没有得吃，有没有喝够水，有没有地方睡觉，有没有受伤…
唉…豆啊豆…乖乖的回来吧!
你是知道的呀! 我们都有多爱你的!
此刻，真的就只能拜托在古晋的朋友了…
帮帮忙问一下, 周遭的人有没有找到一只巴戈犬 (pug)… 谢谢你们了!
其实, 心情欠佳也不能完全说是因为豆豆离家出走的事情。
在还没接到豆豆不见的消息之前，心情就有些许的不好。
为甚么？就是在想着自己的前途…
是很想、很想快快把degree念完,然后,实行自己的梦想。
有的人会说我,干嘛这么不知足啊？有好到国外念书就已经是很好了,还要诸多要求,嫌东嫌西的！
我会答你,我不是不知足,而只是纯粹的想要实践自己的梦想。
我不能因为已经得到物质上的一些,就放弃拥有梦想的权力。
我很知足,可是同时,我想要尝试自己闯荡江湖的感觉。
我不能永远都是生活在父母翅膀底下的小鸭子。
我想要为自己做出努力,为自己而梦,还有,对自己的梦想负责任。
2年前,我没有因为一个交往了3年的男友而放弃来柏斯升学的机会。
3个月前,我没有因为一个我很喜欢的男生而继续留在美国。
现在,我也不会因为他的劝导而改变自己决定留在柏斯完成degree的决定。
2年后,我也不会因为其他人而放弃自己的理想。
其实,政阳给了我很大的推力。
他说,他毕业后要到他想要的地方去完成学业,无论如何都要实现这个梦想。他说,他已经错过了第一倘通往梦想的火车,他不会再让自己错第二倘了!
我之前就一直犹豫不决,是不是该为了自己想要的东西而不能够让父母亲快乐。我现在想通了。
我觉得政阳说得没错,是该坚持自己的信念。
虽然,我的决定会因此而令到父母亲有些许的不开心,毕竟,父母都希望孩子都永远留在自己身边。可是,我又不是要做坏事,又不是想要伤害自己。我相信,会有一天,他们会了解到我为甚么会坚持心中的那一个想法。
不过,其实有些东西,很难能够去解释给别人听,尤其是自己的梦想。
人最喜欢问的问题就是,“为甚么呢？”或者是,“做么leh？”
有些东西就是没个所以然。人,各有喜好,想法和理念自然就会不一样。
就像我在荡秋千那样。
我喜欢靠自己荡到最高点,不喜欢别人在后面推我。
虽然,那样子很累,可是,我却很开心。
“做么leh？有人推不好咩？”
没有为甚么,就是因为我爽,我喜欢,我like-y。
答案就是这样简单。
想要荡多高就荡多高,想要停下来休息就停下来，很自由自在。
嗯…说了这么多…
豆豆,是时候回家了！
你回来,我会请你吃榴连,好吗？
乖吧！
如题!!
如果你们有看到豆豆的话,请马上通知我!!!
豆豆不见了!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
请行行好,帮帮忙吧!!!
快乐的定义是什么呢?
是微笑吗? 是笑声吗? 是不是有笑, 就代表你有快乐呢?
不见得吧..
虽然, 有时候那个笑是发自内心的笑, 可是, 那也只不过代表, 你在那一刹那拥有快乐..
我所追求的, 到底是什么样的快乐呢?
中学生活, 酸、甜、苦、辣, 样样齐全..
可是, 总的来说, 那是一段快乐的6年..
快乐, 是因为满足, 是因为知足, 是因为生活中并没有觉得缺少些什么东西, 也是因为生活被自己所享受的东西而埋没着...
美国的6个月, 情绪的起伏很大…一下高, 一下低…经历了很多的曲折…
偶尔, 会和自己闹别扭, 想回家, 想爸爸妈妈, 哥哥姐姐, 豆豆…
可是, 总的来说, 那是一段快乐的6个月…
快乐, 是因为自由, 是因为在面对挑战后, 那接着来的成就感, 是因为觉得生活有意义…
柏斯的一年半, 这样子的回头看, 我好像…并不快乐…
我好像, 一点成就感也没有…
什么事都不用自己去操心…有车用, 有屋子住, 有钱用, 不必打工也不会是一个问题…
感觉上, 自己好像没什么能力那样…
生活圈子小, 不能怪任何人, 只能怪自己孤僻, 宁愿待在家, 也不愿出去认识多一点的人.
可是, 又不能完全说是自己孤僻…
在美国和中学的那段时间, 对于 ‘人类’ 这个东西很感兴趣, 很爱和人打交道…
那, 为何在这里, 却连这一个简单的原动力都没有呢?
人类其实很奥妙. 往往, 会因为不同的元素而影响决定.
又, 或许是因为人类和老天有一种很奇妙的connection.
就正因为人类会被环境因素而影响, 纯粹是上帝和我们的沟通方式.
我们会因为环境因素而不快乐, 是不是上帝正在告诉我们要另寻一个属於我们自己的世外桃源呢?
这个不让我们开心的环境, 不属於我们, 我们应该要做另一个决定.
是不是这样呢?
我想, 大概是吧!
我最近正在思考着一个问题.
大家都知道, “We only get to live life once,we should do whatever makes us happy” 这个道理吧?
那么, 当那个要令自己快乐的因素, 会间接的让你的家人, 尤其是你的双亲, 感到不愉快的时候, 那你应该要怎么抉择呢?
他们也和我们一样啊~
一生人只活一次, 难道他们就不可以快乐吗?
可是, 若你让他们如愿以偿, 享受他们的快乐的时候, 你又不能够同时去做自己想要, 让自己快乐的事呢?
这时候, 我们应该要自私吗?
毕竟, 是时候轮到我们发光发热了, 不是吗?
Is it really my fault for being so vulnerable towards stress?
Am I really that weak in mind when it comes to dealing with my own problems?
Am I really the one with bad temper?
Is it really me who is being so impatient with people around me?
You know, I always thought that I have tried so hard in not letting things break me down.
But right now, I really don’t know if it’s my problem or what.
It seems like I’m not as tough as I thought I would be.
It seems like I’m the one who is constantly nagging and complaining.
I mean, am I really complaining too much?
I’ve tried so hard in not to think bout the bad sides and not complain, but is it really true that I’m complaining too much?
I don’t know…
Am I being the hypocrite that I dislike so much?
Am I really being too ‘girly’ and just bitch about everything??
Can someone answer my questions?
To me, I felt that I have tried so hard in trying to keep myself out of trouble and out of drama issues.
I felt that I have tried so hard in keeping myself in a good temper and be patient.
But I don’t know if it’s me who’s not really trying as hard as I should, or is it because people are starting to cross the boundary line.
I’m feeling crappy… Is it because people has pushed me too far or did I just didn’t try hard enough to avoid the situation?
I feel like crap…crap…crap…
I don’t want to be the ‘me’ that I am now..
The ‘me’ now sucks…big time…
I need this semester to end soon so I can find myself some jobs and get my mind off things…
A.k.a -- you.
I miss you…
And I want our relationship back soooooooo bad….!
But I know it’s impossible for now…
I guess I just miss you so much that I’m starting to think bout the impossible too much…
Bad Millie! B-A-D!
I guess, one of the reasons why I'm feeling so crappy is that I'm desperate for attention from you.
But I can't have it in any way,or any how..
I just feel like going to bed and sleep for as long as I want and not worry bout a single thing.
I just feel like sleeping all my sorrows away....
I hate selfish people!!!!!!!
Why so selfish???!
I don't get why...Can those selfish people explain to me what is the fun of being such a selfish person?
My heart just breaks into pieces when people are being so selfish and I,literally,feel like smacking the sense out of them.
Too much...Too much negativity surrounding me....
GO AWAY!!!!
I need a warm hug...A comfort from you...I think I'm running out of 'self-energy' to hang on and be nice anymore...I....I have lost my motivation for anything for the moment.
Hey guys!!
Thank you all for the birthday wishes and also to all the oversea calls and oversea text messages I received from you wonderful peeps.
It made me feel really good to know that even though we are oceans apart,I am still blessed with all the wishes from you guys =)
I don't know what I did to deserve you guys as my friends but I'm glad you are and close to my heart.
Words cannot describe how thankful I am towards you guys! =)
I didn't have much thing going on for my birthday.
Apart from the 2 days conference I had to attend that basically took over my 3 Oct, which explains why I was already in bed by 1030pm on 2 Oct..haha!
After being in school for about 7 hours, I had a simple dinner at Hog's Breath with my sisters and Amanda (the other birthday girl), YiLin and Vivian.
Had a little drink at my place while watching "Snake on Plane" that was on TV that night, and then called it a night before it was 12am.
Then, went out for dinner with ChunWei,Phoebe,Wilfred,WeiTat,MingKhai,MohFeng and Shit at this VERY small restaurant call the Red Teapot.
I apologise for selecting a restaurant with such freaking small portion of food..SORRY! >.<
Well,I don't think I'm going to upload any pictures here since they're all on facebook already.
Another reason is because of my laziness..Hence,the English. =P
I'm really tired after the swim,but my VOX is finally working after a week of attempts.
So,decided to write something before it decides to fail me once again..
I still can't believe I'm in the big 2 now.... O.O wow!
